Being Mindful of Our Thoughts

Our thoughts can influence how we behave and respond to circumstances.

Most of us have struggled with negative thoughts at some point in our lives. I know I did when I was a new mum and during certain moments of my medical training. This likely stemmed from fatigue,  performance anxiety, wondering what others thought of me and comparing myself to others. I therefore try to be mindful of my thoughts and to surround myself with positive influences be it in the form of books I read, the people I interact with or the media that I expose myself to.

Surrounding ourselves with a positive environment and mindset does not mean ignoring our negative emotions or the reality around us. It means reflecting on our thoughts and feelings, acknowledging the emotions that are there, and working through them so that nothing festers or remains unresolved. It can help to ask questions such as “Why am I feeling this way? Is it rational? What can I do to rise above it? Who can I talk to about this issue?

I recently read a book by I.C. Robledo that really reminded me how important it is to be IMG_0962mindful of our thoughts. Here are some of the ideas he shares in his book which I draw from regularly in an attempt to be careful about what I focus my mental energy on:

  1. Focus on what you can control, not on what you cannot control
  2. Focus on the positive, not the negative
  3. Focus on what you can do, not on what you cannot do
  4. Focus on what you have, not on what you do not have
  5. Focus on the present, not on the past and future
  6. Focus on what you need, not on what you want
  7. Focus on what you can give, not on what you can take

In this time of confinement and uncertainty, physically apart from loved ones, it is even more important to guard our thoughts and reach out for help when we need it.

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14 thoughts on “Being Mindful of Our Thoughts

  1. Hi Malaika;
    Excellent post, thank you!
    Your writing has brought to mind the fact that it must be difficult for you during this time of pandemic to be living so far from your mother and other family members! I hope that they are all staying healthy!

    Catherine Wilson

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    • Thank you very much Catherine! Yes, you are right. There are moments when I especially miss them. I was very much looking forward to seeing them at graduation but now…that will have to wait. I’m so grateful to have my hubby and kids. They are the biggest blessing in my life…and yes, we are all doing well thank you. I hope you are well too!


  2. Thank you for this important reminder! I’ve read that as many as 80% of the thoughts that enter our minds are negative. That sounds like an exaggeration but when you think about it, how many times do we think negatively about ourselves or our circumstances? Much more often that we think positively, that’s for sure.

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