A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a post about defining what our daily vision is. The next task was to think about the type of impact we want to have on those around us. When a person has spent time with you, what do they come away with? How do they feel?
The answers to these questions will vary from person-to-person but by consciously thinking about the mark we want to leave on another person’s life, it gets us thinking about the other person, thus moving the focus off of ourselves.
As I pondered this task, I came up with these 3 approaches:
- Appreciation: does the person feel genuinely appreciated and cared about when I am with them? This could be through my words, gestures or behavior.
- Inspiration: is the person motivated and encouraged in some way by what I say? Positive and exuberant speech can get others excited about life!
- Attention: do I give my undivided attention, use eye contact and appropriate body language to ensure the person feels truly listened to?
In addition to daily vision (for example, persevering through difficult tasks, having a positive attitude, doing our work with diligence), the mental act of considering how others feel around us can get us more focused on how we affect other people.