How Do People Feel Around You?

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote a post about defining what our daily vision is.  The next task was to think about the type of impact we want to have on those around us. When a person has spent time with you, what do they come away with? How do they feel?

The answers to these questions will vary from person-to-person but by consciously thinking about the mark we want to leave on another person’s life, it gets us thinking about the other person, thus moving the focus off of ourselves.

As I pondered this task, I came up with these 3 approaches:

  1. Appreciation: does the person feel genuinely appreciated and cared about when I am with them? This could be through my words, gestures or behavior.
  2. Inspiration: is the person motivated and encouraged in some way by what I say? Positive and exuberant speech can get others excited about life!
  3. Attention: do I give my undivided attention, use eye contact and appropriate body language to ensure the person feels truly listened to?

In addition to daily vision (for example, persevering through difficult tasks, having a positive attitude, doing our work with diligence), the mental act of considering how others feel around us can get us more focused on how we affect other people.


5 thoughts on “How Do People Feel Around You?

  1. Lovely post Malaika! You always leave me with one of those deep thoughts (now I can’t sleep lol…kidding). Definitely a good reminder to revisit my broken line of attention to others. It burnt out since I meet so many people who start the same conversation all over again lol. I love your closing phrase. It all runs in a circle. You keep me inspired! Much love darling ❤

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    • Thanks so much Yadei. I’m glad you liked the post and that it left you with food for thought. Hopefully you got some sleep, haha! I know what you mean about it being tough to be attentive to everyone you meet, especially when there are many people. I feel that way sometimes and in those situations, I aim to have a deep conversation with at least 1-2 people. It does me a lot of good too! I always learn something new from others. Thanks for reading. Much love to you Yadei!


  2. Saturday I met a lady who contained these qualities. After talking with her for an hour at the baby shower for her great-grandchild I walked away wishing she lived nearby so I could spend more time with her. She had such a peace and joy even while discussing the ill health of her husband, the loss of three of her seven children, as well as the deterioration of her own health. While talking of the death of her children she spoke how God only gives us what we can handle and that children are borrowed to us. She spoke these words from the heart. If people could see the qualities I saw in her I would be happy.

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    • Wow! What a beautiful story Melanie. Thank you for sharing. I also had a conversation like that yesterday at church and it really blessed my day. I totally agree that children are a gift from God. They are so precious. Thanks again for sharing this lovely story. Have a blessed week! 🙂

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